How to make your happy birthday card emotionally fine tuned?

We usually send a happy birthday card to our loved one or friends. Colleges and business associates usually get a present with a note attached.

If someone forgets our birthday we feel we are not important enough for him. After all, a birthday is our Birth Day. The very day we came into this world. It should be an important day. The same is true for our loved ones and friends who expect us to acknowledge the importance of that day to them and to us.

In a card to our father or mother, wife or kids we might want to say something about our relationship. Maybe we feel this is where we can really let ourselves be heard.

If this is the case, consider the effect you want to make. You may want your card to be more than a simple birthday card, but you don't want it to cause bad feelings. Try to sense how to fine tune your voice and greeting, and imagine how it will be received.

You don't have to do it all at once. There will be more birthdays with more greeting cards.

The higher your expectations…

The most dangerous pitfall of writing a greeting card is your high expectations for the effects of your efforts.

You can control what you do and write. You cannot control how others receive it. In other words, you cannot anticipate the reaction to your greeting card.

The reaction may be mild, or non-existent. The recipient may send a few words of thanks or become upset about something you wrote. This is not what you expected.

But the thing is to write, create and give – for its own sake, not for the reaction.

Naturally we want to be thanked and appreciated. But our focus, our attention has to be on giving not receiving. If we do not follow this simple rule we are going to be disappointed, and almost every happy birthday card we send will end in anger.

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